writing
the non-monogamy playbook
My second book, published by Ebury in 2025, is a modern guide to love and intimacy beyond conventional monogamy. The Non-Monogamy Playbook explores the relational and the political, because how we love is never just personal. Alongside the practical and personal, it weaves in the systemic: why our relationship structures are shaped by power, culture, and history, and what it might mean to imagine something different. Whether you're brand new to non-monogamy or have been living it for decades, I want you to finish this book feeling more excited and emotionally equipped to build relationships that truly work for you. Curious, encouraging, and rooted in kindness and community.
“Ruby’s fresh perspective sheds a light on modern relationships, making different ways of thinking both accessible and inspiring.’
Ana Kirova, CEO of Feeld
‘Reading this is like sitting in a bar with a kind, intelligent friend & letting her gently explode the limits of your romantic universe.’
Sophie Duker, Comedian
‘As ever Ruby takes the big, hard stuff and removes the fear from it. Non-monogamy can be tricky terrain, but this book not only gives us a map with which to navigate it, Ruby’s writing reminds us that it’s sexy, fun and enriching to get a little lost in the landscape along the way.’
Tom Rasmussen, Musician and Author of First Comes Love
Buy the book here.
Ladyfister Zine
Sorry mum, I made a zine about fisting.
After years of navigating social media censorship, I craved a less filtered, decidedly offline space, somewhere to explore taboo topics freely, showcase my visual art, and amplify community voices. Ladyfister: A Sapphic Fisting Zine is my first venture into DIY publishing, and I'm deeply proud of it.
Why is this act still so taboo? What delights emerge when we approach pleasure with openness and care? And can you ever really use too much lube?
Ladyfister invites you to glide hole-heartedly into a world of shared knowledge, pleasure, and embodiment. This is just the beginning. My second zine, on fantasies, is on its way, with Ladyfister II out later this year.
Buy digital and hard copies of the zine here.
Sex Ed:
A Guide for Adults
My debut book was published in 2020 by Bloomsbury. Sex Ed is a no-holds-barred, inclusive roadmap that covers everything from how the brain is the most important sex organ, to communicating effectively with partners, all the way down to the glorious messy stuff: solo sex, orgasms, squirting, pegging, toys - the lot!
It’s a pleasure-focused guide, bringing together everything I’ve learnt through my work in the sexual health and sex positivity worlds. It was an Amazon Bestseller.
Illustrations by the wonderful Sofie Birkin - who brought the book to life in a soft and cheeky, yet very sexy, way.
Buy the book here.
“Ruby’s depth of experience shines through from start to finish and it’s clear no stone has been left unturned. She’s committed to giving you all the tools needed to think about your own relationship with sex and an understanding of how you can take your sex life to the next level.”
Sophie Griffiths for Diva Magazine
“Sex Ed answers [questions] in a gentle, creative, instructive and indisputably sexy way”
Vic Parsons for Pink News